Five Signs You Are A Rage-aholic
Are you a rage-aholic? You might not think so but read this entire article and you might change your mind. Just what is rage? According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary Rage, the noun is a strong feeling of anger that is difficult to control, a sudden expression of violent anger. Rage is also a verb, it means to talk in an extremely angry way, to shout loudly and angrily, to happen or continue in a destructive, violent, or intense way.Now that we clearly know what rage is, we’ll see if you are a Rage-aholic.
Here are 5 signs that you are a rage-aholic:
1 – High Reactivity
Does “Rage” wake you up in the morning leaving you with high levels of reactivity? The least little thing sets you off and you react with a fury? Your days are full of your high-pressured reactions to the least of things that may happen. Everything is a major incident. Interactions are as hostile as the feud between the Hatfields and the McCoys. These may be signs of high reactivity.
2 – Unpredictable
You are unpredictable and the only constant in your life is rage. When people don’t respond in the way, manner, style and timeliness that you think they should you can unleash your rage at a moment’s notice. If any of these sounds like you, you are a rage-aholic. Rage takes no prisoners. It will conquer your life and take over.
3 – Controlling
Are you controlling of the people closest to you? Your conversations will be filled with hurt and pain. Your words will express just how angry you are. Violent outbursts will become increasingly common. They will become so common that people around you will expect them and when you don’t have a violent or even a near violent response people will wonder what’s wrong with you, where’s the real you.
4 – Insecurity
Do you have hidden insecurities that are covered by your “Rage”? Those closest to you will often be afraid to let you know you have a problem. The brave ones will dare to hold a mirror up for you to see the destruction of your behavior. Where ever you go and who ever you come in contact with will experience your rage like a hurricane barreling through the Midwest. The damages will be severe and the cost can not be calculated. It is very difficult to put a price on people’s feelings and emotions. But you won’t care because as a “Rage-aholic” you need the rage to make you feel whole.
5 – Addictions
Do you have any addictions that are really controlling your life but you use rage to cover them? Drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, food are just a few of the things you could be addicted to that you would use your rage to cover.
Rage will wake you in the morning, guide you through your daily activities, escort you to lunch, provoke you to offend anyone close to you and those you work with for no good reason at all, will drive home with you in the evening and put you to bed at night. Rage will make you feel like your blood is boiling, you will be just that angry.
There is help available. You can stop the destruction and have meaningful relationships that don’t require anger, frustration, yelling, screaming, insecurities, control and the list goes on. You can be better and you can have a different life.
If you connected with any of these points and want guidance to change the anger within than call us today at 407-622-1770! Call to book an individual counseling session with our expert therapist or to register for our anger management workshop.
Thank You Janie lacy
For your article on rage a holics. I just had to leave a rageaholic after a three year relationship. I am a mental and physical wreck. Now I know that there is a term for her horrible outbursts.what
Help is available for the victims of
Rageaholics.Thanks, chuck
Hi Chuck! I recommend seeking one on one counseling for yourself, as well as finding a support group in your area for those who’ve suffered emotional abuse. I hope that helps!
Married since June 17, 2013. Known each other since 2003. I am 68, retired USAF, but working at home, building computers for charities. Magalie is 54, a med. tech. who commutes to Eustis & Orlando, from our home in downtown Oviedo. We have trouble with communications. Both were raised Catholic, but, attend, occasionally, any church that piques our curiosity.
Sudden outbursts of rage, by her, and my peacemaking attempts that only seem to get a response of “you are trying to control me!” resulted in
her legal troubles, at great cost to me, and possibly to her. Counseling is necessary for us both, so that we can adjust to continue our marriage.
She claims she has to walk on eggshells, but, is always on hyper alert to
misconstrue meanings of my greetings, or of my lightest comments of love, or weather, or wildlife in the bird sanctuary! Her rage is destroying our marriage of 2.6 years!
Counseling is necessary for us both, so that we can adjust to continue our marriage.
http://rageaholicsanonymous.net/
has phone call meetings free.
As well as understanding all rage comes from fear. If you can figure out what a person is afraid of, it might help. Or if they can be aware of the theory it might help them. It has helped me to control my rages.
Janie Lacys article had some useful info on rage o holism but her lay out lacked organization and poignancy. For example: #1- high reactivity and #2-unpredictability are somewhat similar and should not count as 2 separate entries. And the #2 explanation has info re: #3- Control. I feel that ms. Lacy could have written this article more effectively. I do, however, love her, author blurb.
What do you do when it’s an elderly mother who has done it all her life and now has to live in your home?
This is the situation my sister and her family are in, now that our mother moved in with them. our mother was adopted and mentally/emotionaly abused as a child/young lady. She is 85 yrs. old. Not in good health. But that has not tempered her rage in the least.
If a person is willing to seek help for change then there is always hope. If an individual is unable to or refuses change then those who are surrounding him her might need to seek assistance to learn how to manage unhealthy behaviors. Sometimes it is important to learn how to have boundaries so the other person does not infiltrate or hurt you.